Opinion: The Abused and Forgotten.

 "Hey, it's not your problem, it's mine. I love him...I love him."

A common trait of the abused. A relationship of slave/master, a survival love for the oppressor. In the books, Stockholm Syndrome. For the victim, there is no where to go, so a connection ensues. Survival depends on the victims *connection* with the abuser. That is why, when authorities make an attempt to make an arrest, the victim protests.

"He is my husband, how dare you." While for law enforcement, she appears starved, beaten up, and scared.

Finally there is enough circumstantial evidence to put this abuser in jail.

After a little time away from the abuser, she begins to wake up. A painful process, so emotionally she is crying for love. Finally the victim moves out of this false connection with her abuser.

Suddenly she becomes herself.

Years of physical and psychological abuse takes a toll on the victim, The healing process can take years, and many never heal. Many women commit suicide. Then again, those who have children, fight it out, for the kids. Trying in their minds, to do the "right thing".

Domestic violence is a major social issue. And now, Law Enforcement, out of irritation, (domestics on the beat, too many times) can and will be addressed.This violence is systemic. It is "part" of our lives.

I believe, men become violent because they feel their lives are beyond their control. So much in America: unfair taxes, medical rip offs, low wages; and a government that lies on a daily bases, ensures or contributes to this behaviour.

To see a young woman on the street with a child without help, reveals a government that does not care for their people.

Certainly a complex issue.

Certainly, for many, an issue to address, and change for the better.

This will never happen.

Take care of the victims of violence, the uneducated, the rich, educated and the poor. Abuse has no class bounds.

It's necessary.